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Bullying-  The definition of a bully is a person who is mean or intimidating towards someone smaller or weaker than them, but I don't agree with that personally. A bully doesn't have to be larger or stronger than the victim. A bully (in my mind) is someone who verbally or physically harasses, embarrasses, or torments someone in person or over the internet. Bullies can range from a 6'7", 280 pound, 17 year old guy, to a 5'0", 90 pound, 14 year old girl, to some 46 year old creep going on Webkinz and stalking 7 year olds. Your teachers always tell you that if you're being bullied that you should tell an adult immediately, but there are three problems with that:

1. It's hard to tell someone that things along those lines are happening to you
2. They may try to do something, but face it, that doesn't always help!
3. Retalliation

Not only is it hard to face the fact that your life has become an ABC family show (to some extent) but bullying has a  tendency to lower your self-esteem. Whether it's verbal bullying, physical bullying, or cyber bullying, it's scary and as embarrassing as it may seem to confess to an adult about being victimized online, in school, or anywhere else you go, it's the first step to stopping the problem. Now, I'm not trying to sound like an article you get in school about bullying, but for the most part, those articles are true.

After you muscle up the courage to tell an adult about any situation you're in, your problem still might not be solved. In most movies we see about teens, anyone getting bullied tries to stick up for themselves, ignore it, and then finally tell an adult. After that the adult attempts to confront the bully or the bully's guardian, then perhaps the teen's school. The problem is that after that, the bully may not stop. They may retaliate, whether it's in the same form of bullying as before or not. In this situation, you may need to take it to the next level.  If you hadn't already told your school, that may be the next step. After that, if it still doesn't stop, taking it to your state legislators. Nowadays, a lot of states have anti-bullying laws.... 45 states to be exact. Hawaii, Montana, Michigan, North Dakota, and South Dakota are the only states without them as of 2010. Cyber-bullying however, seems to be a completely different issue.  Alabama, Connecticut, Hawaii, Indiana, Maine, Michigan, Montana, New Mexico, North Dakota, Ohio, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Vermont, West Virginia, and Wisconsin all don't have laws against cyber-bullying. And while 34 states with laws against it may seem like a lot, it's not. That's 16 states that have no consequences towards cyber-bullying!

Just remember www.loveyourselfteens.weebly.com is a safe, trustworthy place to come for help if you are being bullied. There is absolutely no judgement or criticism towards anything you may anonymously to me at dana.meredith@aol.com. If there are any comments made towards something you do or say publicly on the website, actions will be taken to prevent it. 
 





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